I live in a fog

fat foggy feminist bisexual seamstress artist librarian living in Astoria, Queens, NY

Aug 26
SEPTEMBER HOROSCOPES

virgo, actively seek balance.

libra, trust these are the right decisions.

scorpio, separate fact from feeling.

sagittarius, remind yourself how you got this far.

capricorn, it is a time of luck.

aquarius, unpack your current fear.

pisces, take on this challenge.

aries, you will find a place to belong.

taurus, let it happen.

gemini, toast to self-acceptance.

cancer, embrace the love around you.

leo, you are safe here.”
SEPTEMBER HOROSCOPES, by Blythe Baird (via framesjanco)

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bidyke:

69kittykate69:

AHAT
WHAT
WHAAATTTTT
WHHHHHHHHHHHATTT AHHHHHHHHHH

I needed this piggy in my life today,


"Straight passing privilege." Expect lots of swearing.

bidyke:

kvvilder:

It becomes more and more clear to me why “straight passing privilege” rubs me completely the wrong way and why it’s not ‘oppressive’ or privileged of bi people to have a problem with that framework, and how directly erasive and contradictory it is to the reality of biphobia for a helluva lot of “straight passing” bisexuals.

You’re literally saying that one of the things which has [personally] hurt and affected me the most as a bi person is something I should be fucking thankful for when it’s actually a direct contributor to a lot of my internal suffering and severe sense of isolation. It makes dating really fucking daunting when being with someone of a gender that is considered “opposite” of your own (gender binarist hell), because it means you have to deal with even more direct, unapologetic aversion towards like, still being queer, from everyone.

It means erasure, more isolation, and people telling you that this “passing” is a good thing like it’s just a fact of life. No citations necessary, everyone just believes it. (Unlike, you know, anything a bi person tries to tell anyone about bisexual experience; and any citations given will be challenged and ‘debunked’ by a monosexual to settle cognitive dissonance.) 

Oh, and then people assume you have the same dynamic as two straight people dating but that’s literally bullshit. And like, in my experience, being a bi girl and dating straight men fucking SUCKS because so many straight dudes constantly try to enforce a heteronormative ass dynamic onto you and then you have to deal with hypersexualization and invalidating controlling bullshit most of the time and just, I can’t even.. 

Being “straight passing” when you are not straight is not, and never will be, a privilege. It’s actually fucking awful because of asswipes like you who don’t even open up the opportunity for conversation about real shit cause you instead want to talk out of your unknowing ass about what “straight passing” entails. You actively deny us space to be heard and while also saying that, if we’re “really” bi, we’ll be “sexually available” to people of our gender lest we want to be read as/told we are “really straight.” Bisexuals aren’t allowed to reject anybody, and I’m not exaggerating: that is a straight up loud and clear message I’ve gotten from day one and continue to receive from people - especially folks on tumblr who are not bisexual but think they’re in a position to tell bisexuals anything about our “het relationships.”

The “straight passing privilege” talking point as it is applied is a bunch of gaslighting bullshit that plays into a lot of really gross, rape culture-y, coercive shit, and I’m done pretending that’s not the case. Let’s just be fucking honest, here.

I wish people would stop pretending this is some necessary ‘privilege’ to discuss when it’s ultimately just feeding grounds for biphobes to use as an excuse for their bi-hating bullshit. It’s about speaking over bisexuals and invalidating our identities. It’s a beat-around-the-bush way of saying we’re straight, and also a way of prioritizing monosexual queer perception of bisexual lives over that of the bisexual people actually living and experiencing those lives. 

Yeah, sure, if you don’t visibly look queer to strangers in public then you don’t have to deal with the Queer Show being on display in that direct moment, but like the times you do end up in the position of being that person who is the “gay one” out in public doesn’t just magically shake off when people can’t tell you’re queer anymore. It just highlights a thing you’re still fucking shaken and shaped by and that’s not a goddamn privilege.

I know people have a hard time thinking that how a bisexual person feels about their experience actually counts as part of the experience of oppression but like, how we feel about our treatment actually does fucking count and our mental and physical well being is fucking important and I’m done with the subtle implications that we need to give you more than that to matter in the larger concept of “LGBT.” I’m not here to give you statistics you’ll dispute anyways and I’m not here to reassure you that a conversation about straight passing privilege is still important and whatever bullshit. Just no. How about, shut the fuck up, and stop talking about straight passing privilege until you can genuinely and compassionately listen to the people you’re accusing of having a privilege about their experiences.

Like, no - my experience of being “straight passing” meant constant torment from my peers and family, meant using my “straightness” as a way of denying my queerness to both myself and to others so that I could carry an intense amount of shame and unhealthy policing about my expressions. It meant teaching me to fucking hate myself for being bi, to teach me that I was “wrong” when I did things that resembled being queer (and, in LGBT spaces, “being straight”) and ultimately I was treated as though I was just a more desperate, attention seeking, “sexually available” version of a straight girl (wow the misogyny in even framing straight girls that way tho, like wow). Which meant I was easy prey for sexual and emotional abusers. Every man I met until my current partner was at least one of those things towards me - and every one of those men, except for my current partner, was/is straight.

I was coerced into an appearance that I could have the spoons to deal with the response to and any other expressions were shoved right in my face. The forced closeting has shaped my life in a painful way, and that’s not a fucking privilege. It’s not a privilege to suffer from this shit and have it manifest in the form of self harm and have your bisexuality used against you in a way that causes you to have no community, to need it so desperately that you’re willing to try and buy into this invalidating idea just for acceptance as a queer person.

EVERYONE STOP WHAT YOU ARE DOING AND READ. THIS. NOW.


“We’re all born a Witch. We’re all born into magic. It’s taken from us as we grow up.” Madeleine L’Engle (via moonsiren)

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O when will my book on feminist witchcraft come in??


Aug 25

insassingaround:

loggingoutofpatriarchy:

fauxcyborg:

how much of body positivity is saying “your body is okay but you better be putting AN EFFORT into looking good” ie - performing beauty labor that isn’t expected of men, ie wearing “flattering” clothes that are sexy or stylish? 

b/c it looks like a lot. 

GOK WAN

BOOM

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wocinsolidarity:

thepoliticalfreakshow:

African-American Girls & Women Killed By Police: Speak Their Names. See Their Faces. Know Their Stories.
There is this false myth going around that Black women are not victims of police violence. I believe the myth exists because quite frankly the media, social justice organizations and we the public tend not to focus on it. It is a self-fulfilling prophecy. I hope this post will make all of us change our minds. Here are the stories of some of the Black women and girls killed by law enforcement:
Adaisha Miller, Detroit Woman, Hugged Cop From Behind
LAPD cop charged with assault in death of Alesia Thomas
7-year- old Aiyana Stanley-Jones – Detroit Free Press
17 Year Old Darnesha Harris Dead after Run-In with Breaux
Mackala Ross and Delores Epps
Eleanor Bumpurs
Erica Collins family files lawsuit against Cincy Police
Pleasant Grove crash claims life of second person | AL.com (Heather Parker)
Family grieves after loved one killed in crash with APD (Jacqueline Culp)
Family of victim question police use of deadly force – KWCH (Karen Day)
Kendra James remembered at Portland rally | KOIN.com
Pedestrian Killed on I-95 in Florida (Laporsha Watson)
After Cleveland shooting, cities restrict police chases(Malissa Williams)
Miriam Carey, Capitol Suspect, Suffered Post-Partum Depression
Elderly Woman Shot & Killed By Hearne Police Officer (Pearlie Golden)
Rekia Boyd Settlement: Family Of Unarmed Chicago Woman
Former Pa. trooper pleads guilty in fatal accident (Robin T. Williams)
Shantel Davis Killed By NYPD Cop In Car Chase | News One
Friends: Woman killed by police was nonviolent | Las Vegas (Sharmel Edwards)
Suspected Walmart Shoplifter Shot To Death In Front Of Kids (Shelly Frey)
The NYPD’s Poor Judgment With the Mentally Ill | Village Voice (Shereese Francis)
Harrisburg woman identified as victim in police SUV crash (Shulena S. Weldon)
$2.5M settlement in shooting of Lima woman by police officer (Tarika Wilson)
No Charges in Killing of Tyisha Miller – Los Angeles Times
Texas Police Admit Officer Shot & Killed Unarmed Woman (Yvette Smith)

!!!

wocinsolidarity:

thepoliticalfreakshow:

African-American Girls & Women Killed By Police: Speak Their Names. See Their Faces. Know Their Stories.

There is this false myth going around that Black women are not victims of police violence. I believe the myth exists because quite frankly the media, social justice organizations and we the public tend not to focus on it. It is a self-fulfilling prophecy. I hope this post will make all of us change our minds. Here are the stories of some of the Black women and girls killed by law enforcement:

Adaisha Miller, Detroit Woman, Hugged Cop From Behind

LAPD cop charged with assault in death of Alesia Thomas

7-year- old Aiyana Stanley-JonesDetroit Free Press

17 Year Old Darnesha Harris Dead after Run-In with Breaux

Mackala Ross and Delores Epps

Eleanor Bumpurs

Erica Collins family files lawsuit against Cincy Police

Pleasant Grove crash claims life of second person | AL.com (Heather Parker)

Family grieves after loved one killed in crash with APD (Jacqueline Culp)

Family of victim question police use of deadly force – KWCH (Karen Day)

Kendra James remembered at Portland rally | KOIN.com

Pedestrian Killed on I-95 in Florida (Laporsha Watson)

After Cleveland shooting, cities restrict police chases(Malissa Williams)

Miriam Carey, Capitol Suspect, Suffered Post-Partum Depression

Elderly Woman Shot & Killed By Hearne Police Officer (Pearlie Golden)

Rekia Boyd Settlement: Family Of Unarmed Chicago Woman

Former Pa. trooper pleads guilty in fatal accident (Robin T. Williams)

Shantel Davis Killed By NYPD Cop In Car Chase | News One

Friends: Woman killed by police was nonviolent | Las Vegas (Sharmel Edwards)

Suspected Walmart Shoplifter Shot To Death In Front Of Kids (Shelly Frey)

The NYPD’s Poor Judgment With the Mentally Ill | Village Voice (Shereese Francis)

Harrisburg woman identified as victim in police SUV crash (Shulena S. Weldon)

$2.5M settlement in shooting of Lima woman by police officer (Tarika Wilson)

No Charges in Killing of Tyisha MillerLos Angeles Times

Texas Police Admit Officer Shot & Killed Unarmed Woman (Yvette Smith)

!!!

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litahalford:

it infuriates me when people tell me “lifes too short to not forgive people!” like NO lifes too short for me to continually allow abusive and manipulative behavior in my life and live in a constant state of anxiety bc I want to be “nice” or whatever

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Aug 24

If you are okay with the word “breeder”

bidyke:

a-little-bi-furious:

…you probably don’t know how it is used or its history.

I know a lot of people think it just means straight people and it’s a harmless jab at the privileged but it is not.

It is a biphobic, cissexist, racist and generally awful term.

This comic explains why pretty well.

As you can see “breeders” was chanted at bisexuals during London Pride this year and this is not an isolated incident, this is a regular experience at Pride around the world for many bisexuals. It is not only equating them as straight people (since this insult is used against straight people too) but also hypersexualises them for being “good breeders”, there’s the biphobia.

As the comic demonstrates this is especially hard for people who for whatever reason cannot have children, having problems “breeding”, this includes people who have misscarried, people who have recovered from illnesses where their reproductive parts have had to be removed, trans people who have undergone gender ressignment surgery and intersex people. It is essentially stripping people down to their reproductive capabilities and genitals, there’s your cissexism.

The word also has a very racist history, during the slave era “breeder” was often used to refer to black women who were designated for breeding new slaves and even now “welfare breeder” is used as a derogatory term to refer to, primarily, black single mothers. When this word is aimed at poc, especially black and latina women, it brings up a reminder of racism and being stripped of their autonomy to become livestock, there’s your racism.

It can also be very misogynistic when it is aimed at women since reducing women to reproductive value in general is a core value of misogyny.

Seriously don’t use this word, it sucks, it hurts people, let it die.

This


funkvibe:

ok do you see this Legendary Epic woman right here? this is wendy fucking carlos and i’m going to describe to you why wendy carlos is 30 thousand times better than you
she is a 74 year old trans fucking woman. she remembers having dysphoria at age five and started hrt in 1968. you think transitioning is difficult now? try doing it in 1968. the thought scares the shit out of me.
her first album, switched on bach, is a literal hour of her playing bach’s music on synthesizers. that’s classical edm. edm wouldn’t exist if she hadn’t brought synthesizers to prominence. the catch? synthesizers in 1968 were monophonic. that means you can only play one note at a time. wendy carlos sat there and played each instrument’s piece of bachs music at least 6 times per symphony, painstakingly overdubbing and rerecording each line, one at a time.
oh yeah, switched on bach was the first classical album to sell more than 500k copies and she won 3 grammies and stayed on the billboard #1 pop charts for 17 weeks.
you know tron? that really awesome movie whose sequel daft punk made the ost for? wendy is the original daft punk. tron’s soundtrack was all her; not only that, but so was a clockwork orange and the shining. 
in 1998 this piece of shit momus (aka nick currie on wired) made a song mocking wendy’s sexual orientation. $50k of currie’ money later, she forced him to remove that song from his entire collection, have the master destroyed, and his music career fucking died after that.
figured i’d post this since daft punk keep getting a lot of love. i love daft punk, but they owe their lives to this fucking badass.

funkvibe:

ok do you see this Legendary Epic woman right here? this is wendy fucking carlos and i’m going to describe to you why wendy carlos is 30 thousand times better than you

  1. she is a 74 year old trans fucking woman. she remembers having dysphoria at age five and started hrt in 1968. you think transitioning is difficult now? try doing it in 1968. the thought scares the shit out of me.
  2. her first album, switched on bach, is a literal hour of her playing bach’s music on synthesizers. that’s classical edm. edm wouldn’t exist if she hadn’t brought synthesizers to prominence. the catch? synthesizers in 1968 were monophonic. that means you can only play one note at a time. wendy carlos sat there and played each instrument’s piece of bachs music at least 6 times per symphony, painstakingly overdubbing and rerecording each line, one at a time.
  3. oh yeah, switched on bach was the first classical album to sell more than 500k copies and she won 3 grammies and stayed on the billboard #1 pop charts for 17 weeks.
  4. you know tron? that really awesome movie whose sequel daft punk made the ost for? wendy is the original daft punk. tron’s soundtrack was all her; not only that, but so was a clockwork orange and the shining. 
  5. in 1998 this piece of shit momus (aka nick currie on wired) made a song mocking wendy’s sexual orientation. $50k of currie’ money later, she forced him to remove that song from his entire collection, have the master destroyed, and his music career fucking died after that.

figured i’d post this since daft punk keep getting a lot of love. i love daft punk, but they owe their lives to this fucking badass.

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Aug 23

eastcoastalvibes:

daeneryus:

"i understand women have it bad but men have it bad too"

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"i mean, women are almost equal to men as it is"

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"i’m not a feminist, i believe in equality"

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It’s perfect

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NEED

NEED

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nyctaeus:

Signs without Signification - Jeff Brouws

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Aug 21

fabulazerstokill:

harrysde:

From Elon James White Tuesday night.

This better have hundreds of thousands of notes at the end of the day or else

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